I'm sure you guys know all about friends. What friends are, what friends are for, etc etc... Yeah. But recent turn of events require me to highlight other aspects of friendship.
1st point - Friends have a mind of their own
You cannot expect your friend to just support you blindly without having his/her own opinions. If you're looking for unconditional support and blind agreement for every one of your actions and consequences, I suggest you find a mother.
2nd point - Friendship does not include a pacifier
A friend may choose to just watch from afar, or sometimes, to speak up. Whatever comes out of the mouth of your friend is his/her opinion. Respect it. Why? Because you also want your friend to respect YOUR opinions and decisions. Simple? (Notice I said RESPECT and not AGREE faggots)
3rd point - A friend will always be a friend
Your friend will always be your friend. You may argue, fight, kill each other, but you will still be friends after you forgive and forget. If you do all the above, and still remain friends, you deserve each other. But if one party just hides in his/her hole, and just BITCHES around, then that is not called friendship. Keep it an open book you bastards. Of coz there are exceptions like if your friend turns BAD blah blah blah.
4th point - Help should be appreciated
When your friend tries to help, or offers his/her opinion, just take it even if you don't use it. Don't fucking go round asking your friends to BACK OFF, thinking that your friend is trying to steal the limelight or trying to get attention for fucks sake. If help is a form of self-glorification or attention grabber, then I suggest all of you to not help your friends. Just let them fucking die. But if you do help your friends, then based on the "cool" theory above, I think we'd all be American Idols of something.
So far so good? I hope you all understand the fucking points above.
Now, on to the story. I have a friend, named Sam. He had an argument with a random guy he did not know, on the internet. No big deal ryte? Ok. The argument got big. It's even continuing right now with Sam issuing death threats and such.
*right now, Sam will be shouting that IT'S NOT A DEATH THREAT LAH". Fine, maybe not, but this is what he said IN HIS OWN WORDS*
- "I won't purposely go search for you, but if anyhow I found out where you live, haha ^^"
- "but anyhow, I do got spy at a lot of places. live in fear dude, you'll never know what happen next"
- "haha we shall see ^^ everyone know I'm a person who's 有仇必报 (it means "will revenge")"
- "I'll sure looking for you, but definitely not your working place ^^"
- "LAME?? You wont said that if you know wat's coming ahead of you. just be patient"
- "Talk all you want here. Just expect the unexpected"
- "bet you wont be that cocky in reality huh~ looking forward you begging for mercy~"
This goes on... So me and my friends Don and Boon Ken intervened. We just asked him to stop arguing. Heck I even asked the BOTH of them to stop the argument. I don't usually take sides in a heated argument. Especially not when both of them are my friends.
But no, he turns around, and asks us to "back off" or "it's not about you anymore" (since when the fuck has it been about us huh? It's YOUR argument damnit"). Of coz he also says that we betrayed him etc etc.
Betray? Betray what fuck? Here's what he said to Don.
- "people have limit. so do I.. maybe you know mine, maybe you don't~ I can tolerate on almost everything, but not the betrayal of frens, not even in a sarcasm way!"
How does a friend betray you sarcastically? I seriously don't understand.
Anyway, this goes out to Sam. I know he reads my blog. He's a loyal follower. Here's what I have to say -
"Dear Sam, what we did was not a betrayal. You can think whatever you want and WE can also think what we want. As I mentioned above, we have our own mind, our own points, and our own mouths. We tried to help, you pushed us aside. You threatened Don. You took our actions as a form of betrayal. Fine. If you want to think that way, so be it. You like to hold grudges, and yet you shout alot. That's a form of hypocrisy. Your latest MSN nickname is "Sarcasm is definitely not included in the package of friendship". Unfortunately, I don't really understand it coz our "England" seems to be a little different. No matter. If you don't like what we did, do come and bitch it to us. Come and discuss it with us if you still treat us like a friend. Don't go holding grudges and keeping it inside. It will do nobody any good. Right now, I am not even commenting on your argument with Han Sern. Since you don't wanna reach out to us, I'm reaching out to you. I await your PM. But if you choose not to fix it, I have nothing left to say. Good night."
PS : Will keep you guys updated. I know many people are involved in this.
PPS : Sam, please read my message CAREFULLY. I don't want you to start misinterpreting things again.
PPPS : I apologize for the vulgarity above. It was necessary. This is the most F's I got on a page ever. LoL.
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6 comments:
that whole argue thingy was all so stupid!! i agree with u that everyone got their own liking, and not necessary for them to follow or like what u like. everyone got their own comment about what u like. U could either accept it or don’t bother bout it. why wanna argue? There’s “FREEDOM OF SPEECH” in this world! Don’t stop us from trying to say what we want!
And please la Sam. For goodness sake! ur friends are just voicing out their opinions, and they didn’t say they helping either one of u guys. They didn’t say who is wrong or right. They are just voicing out! Nothing wrong with that! And u don’t have to be so rude to tell them to “BACK OFF”. They just wanna help you to stop the argument. And Munz is right! “Help should be appreciated!” if u don’t want any help, say so or just accept what they say (meaning u don’t have to reply bout what they say). u don’t have to do the easy way, that is to ask them to “BACK OFF”! Do u like it if I ask u to “BACK OFF” now? Think about it before u do it on others! There’s consequences for all u doing. And if u don’t mind the consequences, then do it! I can say that if you keep doing this, u’ll lose all ur friends! If you don’t mind being lonely for the rest of ur life, then continue doing it. If u still have heart, and care about ur friends, think carefully before u say or do anything!
This is a really smart post. I know if I say anything stupid here, you'll have posted this for nothing so I won't say anything. I guess it's me too but then again, whenever I read Sam's replies, I can't find it in myself to apologise which is what I usually do to most people. Well, kudos to your post.
to cayman : if wanna take wat Mun Wei posted as what had really happened, go ahead.. I already damn bored trying to explaining the thing over and over again.. if you wanna misjudge me, go ahead..
to Hansern : getting cocky on the net wont help you even a bit in reality.. talk all you want here.. I assure you that you'll be damn regret for challenging people's limit~
and 1 last thing, Cayman : Mun Wei and I talked bout it yesterday regarding this post.. He and I both knew that there had been misunderstanding, both in his post and mine~ but then again, this is his blog.. he had the freedom to post/edit anything or choose not to.. If you wanna judged me based on what other people's thoughts and writings instead of trusting your frens, its fine with me~
smart silence is much btr than dumb words... knowing when to stop does the world so much good.
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